Matthew 25:9 – And the wise answered the foolish, “No! There
will not be enough for you and for us. You had better go to the dealer and by
some for yourselves.”
Many people have a super hard time telling another person no,
especially if the person is with us. It’s easier when we don’t have to see the
disappointment in their eyes or hear it in their voice. We generally don’t want
to disappoint others. I’m sure the foolish bridesmaids were disappointed by
this answer, yet the wise bridesmaids are adamant. The Greek expression leaves
no doubt whatsoever.
In addition to their preparation for obstacle, their ability
to correctly assess the situation and refuse the request makes them wise. They are
not refusing the request because they feel put out. They are refusing because
there is not enough oil to go around. If they had acquiesced, they would all
have been left in the dark. How many times have we acquiesced or been talked
into something against our better judgement and been “left in the dark?” How
many times have we compromised our own self-care because some one else
requested a favor? How many times have we tried to squeeze just one more thing
in our day?
Of course, there are times when our own desires and needs should
be put aside temporarily. No one can go through life solely thinking of their
own comfort and security. That would be a lonely way to live. Going overboard by
trying to help everyone who asks without the judgment the wise bridesmaids
exhibit in the parable will get us pulled thinner and thinner in many
directions. Either way, we lose our center.
One easy way to address this tendency, if we have it, is to
notice why we are saying yes to someone. Of course, this only works if we are willing
to be open to the truth. Today, let’s notice why we decide to take action.
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